Of all the dispositions that we, the humans, possess, the most confusing, the most perplexing and more often than not, the one that throws us into chasms of predicament is, the mode of Silence.
Silence, because it doesn't make itself clear of its intentions. Silence, because it doesn't let other person know of your mushrooming thoughts. Silence, because it draws myriad connotations and innuendos to different people.
There are times when we have to face silence as an answer when we actually expected some response. Oppositely, there are times as well, when you are the one expressing your pang through the scream of your silence. At times, we know that being silent would be the best answer to a situation. Also, sometimes it's better not to open your mouth and let everyone know of your ignorance.
Be it whatever, but it obviously is something that sometimes is the best and at other times, the worst form of a response. Be prudent enough to handle it properly...
Let's look at few situations:
1) I know the truth, that's why I am silent :
At times, people know the truth and so they keep themselves mum. I mean, saying the truth would throw the person telling 'stories' into a state of utter shock and utter chagrin (because he thinks that no one knows the truth). The purpose here is to avoid 'baring' the person in front of all; so, we in such situation tend to be silent. Haven't we faced this situation many times ???
2) I was silent as I wanted to help you :
Many times, we keep our stories boxed, only because we want to help someone. This situation is not uncommon and faced by all aplenty. This silence helps the other person besides, making the bond stronger.
I remember one incident from my school days, when one of our friends had broken a glass pane of our classroom and when questioned by the class teacher about who the culprit was, we all went into a state of 'maun', as if we didn't know it. We all knew it, as we all were part of the drama that culminated into a ruckus. But as the saying goes, 'United we stand, Divided we fall', we all decided that we wouldn't divulge the name, as the friend who was the culprit, was apologetic and needed to be condoned. Most importantly, what led us to take that unanimous decision was that we all shared a level of camaraderie unparalleled, unmatched. And, the saying proved itself correct. 'The court' in absence of witnesses couldn't indict anyone. This incident, in turn, brought us even more close.
I don't know how correct was the idea behind this, but definitely the lesson and importance of standing together as a bunch would vanquish any other idea.
3) When Silence is the only saviour :
This one is a bit hilarious. I remember not only one but many classes wherein we couldn't understand a thing and when teacher fired the cascade of questions to us, we all were dumbfounded. We had no option but to remain silent. I guess all of us, definitely would have had this hell of an experience when you'd have thought---'Answer kahan se dun..question tak toh samajh me aa nahi ra...Chup hi raho' ;)
4) Silence, at times, is the best choice :
At times, we have to face situations when we are unsure, where we find ourselves embroiled in such a confounding state, that silence seems to be the best answer. Not because we don't know, not because we don't want to answer but, because of the prevailing dilemmic situation, our senses seem to stop working and we are unable to extricate ourselves, howsoever we try.
I remember an incident with one of my friends. 10th board exams' results were just out and there was a great commotion in our minds, let alone parents, about the selection of streams.
This very friend of mine wanted to opt Commerce. But as he was a 'good' student, who had notched a good percentage as well, his parents thought otherwise and wanted him to go for Science. He would tell us his plight and we couldn't do anything but to 'advise' him to remain calm, 'silent', and to give no reactions at all. As we all were naive, one thought that used to pester us a lot was that, that parents' advice mightn't be totally wrong as well as they had more experience but then, most importantly, it was against what our friend wanted.
Few hard days passed, he used to be silent and calm as against being discourteous, rustic and rude to his parents and ultimately, his parents calmed down and came to the conclusion that yes, commerce was what he wanted and only that would do him good.
How this change in perspective (of the parents) happened, no one knows but certainly, had he been impolite, the situation today could have been different. Thus, we could say that silence covertly played the role of an ice-breaker.
5) And then, times when you are at the receiving end of silence :
That perplexing and anguishing moment, when you are expecting an answer eagerly and you are given nothing but silence. How hard and harsh those times could prove to us. In absence of a clear answer, our further course of action gets impeded. And, that surely is a grave and grim foggy situation. It proves to be an ordeal and then only we realize, how difficult it is to be on the receiving end of a silence.
Silence raises more questions than answers. It sometimes could be good to exhibit but at times difficult to handle as well. It starts creating notions that might or mightn't be true. Sometimes, when you are silent, it's just for the sake of others and many a time when you are silent, it's just because you don't want that burning thing inside you, to become cognizable. There come times when we want silence itself to answer things on its own, in its own ways. Sometimes it's necessary, sometimes it's a shenanigan and sometimes it's indispensable. Whatever it is and howsoever form it is used in, I hope all of us have faced the scream of silence sometimes in our life and it would have definitely bewildered us all, if not anything.
Silence does say many things than it literally implies.
Silence, because it doesn't make itself clear of its intentions. Silence, because it doesn't let other person know of your mushrooming thoughts. Silence, because it draws myriad connotations and innuendos to different people.
There are times when we have to face silence as an answer when we actually expected some response. Oppositely, there are times as well, when you are the one expressing your pang through the scream of your silence. At times, we know that being silent would be the best answer to a situation. Also, sometimes it's better not to open your mouth and let everyone know of your ignorance.
Be it whatever, but it obviously is something that sometimes is the best and at other times, the worst form of a response. Be prudent enough to handle it properly...
Let's look at few situations:
1) I know the truth, that's why I am silent :
At times, people know the truth and so they keep themselves mum. I mean, saying the truth would throw the person telling 'stories' into a state of utter shock and utter chagrin (because he thinks that no one knows the truth). The purpose here is to avoid 'baring' the person in front of all; so, we in such situation tend to be silent. Haven't we faced this situation many times ???
2) I was silent as I wanted to help you :
Many times, we keep our stories boxed, only because we want to help someone. This situation is not uncommon and faced by all aplenty. This silence helps the other person besides, making the bond stronger.
I remember one incident from my school days, when one of our friends had broken a glass pane of our classroom and when questioned by the class teacher about who the culprit was, we all went into a state of 'maun', as if we didn't know it. We all knew it, as we all were part of the drama that culminated into a ruckus. But as the saying goes, 'United we stand, Divided we fall', we all decided that we wouldn't divulge the name, as the friend who was the culprit, was apologetic and needed to be condoned. Most importantly, what led us to take that unanimous decision was that we all shared a level of camaraderie unparalleled, unmatched. And, the saying proved itself correct. 'The court' in absence of witnesses couldn't indict anyone. This incident, in turn, brought us even more close.
I don't know how correct was the idea behind this, but definitely the lesson and importance of standing together as a bunch would vanquish any other idea.
3) When Silence is the only saviour :
This one is a bit hilarious. I remember not only one but many classes wherein we couldn't understand a thing and when teacher fired the cascade of questions to us, we all were dumbfounded. We had no option but to remain silent. I guess all of us, definitely would have had this hell of an experience when you'd have thought---'Answer kahan se dun..question tak toh samajh me aa nahi ra...Chup hi raho' ;)
4) Silence, at times, is the best choice :
At times, we have to face situations when we are unsure, where we find ourselves embroiled in such a confounding state, that silence seems to be the best answer. Not because we don't know, not because we don't want to answer but, because of the prevailing dilemmic situation, our senses seem to stop working and we are unable to extricate ourselves, howsoever we try.
I remember an incident with one of my friends. 10th board exams' results were just out and there was a great commotion in our minds, let alone parents, about the selection of streams.
This very friend of mine wanted to opt Commerce. But as he was a 'good' student, who had notched a good percentage as well, his parents thought otherwise and wanted him to go for Science. He would tell us his plight and we couldn't do anything but to 'advise' him to remain calm, 'silent', and to give no reactions at all. As we all were naive, one thought that used to pester us a lot was that, that parents' advice mightn't be totally wrong as well as they had more experience but then, most importantly, it was against what our friend wanted.
Few hard days passed, he used to be silent and calm as against being discourteous, rustic and rude to his parents and ultimately, his parents calmed down and came to the conclusion that yes, commerce was what he wanted and only that would do him good.
How this change in perspective (of the parents) happened, no one knows but certainly, had he been impolite, the situation today could have been different. Thus, we could say that silence covertly played the role of an ice-breaker.
5) And then, times when you are at the receiving end of silence :
That perplexing and anguishing moment, when you are expecting an answer eagerly and you are given nothing but silence. How hard and harsh those times could prove to us. In absence of a clear answer, our further course of action gets impeded. And, that surely is a grave and grim foggy situation. It proves to be an ordeal and then only we realize, how difficult it is to be on the receiving end of a silence.
Silence raises more questions than answers. It sometimes could be good to exhibit but at times difficult to handle as well. It starts creating notions that might or mightn't be true. Sometimes, when you are silent, it's just for the sake of others and many a time when you are silent, it's just because you don't want that burning thing inside you, to become cognizable. There come times when we want silence itself to answer things on its own, in its own ways. Sometimes it's necessary, sometimes it's a shenanigan and sometimes it's indispensable. Whatever it is and howsoever form it is used in, I hope all of us have faced the scream of silence sometimes in our life and it would have definitely bewildered us all, if not anything.
Silence does say many things than it literally implies.
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